Sunday, November 28, 2010

28November2010 A Lesson from the Coach.

I read, or maybe heard it, somewhere that sports is a microcosm of life but I'm pretty sure there's nothing "micro" about it.  On the field, court, course, pitch, track, and even in the stands, you see the best and worst of others and sometimes display the best and worst of yourself.
S & Z have been playing in a fall soccer league.  It's been a fun experience, for the most part, and educational for their father.  I'm use to running leagues, having been a recreational director in a previous life, but being on the other side of the fence, at it were, is a whole new.....ballgame (sorry). All games started at least 30 minutes late, the facilities were unkept, the officiating was suspect, coaching was horrific and my kids were losing.....being dismantled!   And this was after just two games.  At the beginning of the third game, I felt the same terrible attitude rising within me and I decided to give the target of my frustration, our coaches, a little piece of my mind.  Fortunately conviction rose at a rate marginally greater than the bile that was getting ready to come out of my mouth.  I'm ashamed that it took that long but grateful it didn't take longer. I bit my tongue and decided to look at the positives, mainly that the boys were having a good time.
Two weeks later, following another loss, we loaded up the family and headed back toward the house.  As we pulled onto the highway, we passed one of our coaches (in red in the photo above) walking beside the road.  I stopped and asked him if he needed a ride.  With a huge grin he jumped into the front seat lickety-split.  We were shocked to learn he was walking home.  The field is a 20-30 minute drive to town, at the minimum a 3 hour walk!  Imagine my shame when we found out he walked to practices and games, when he didn't have a ride or money for a taxi, to volunteer coaching for my boys.  Talk about a kick in a gut.  This same man, who I wanted to fuss at about something so silly as a soccer game, was making this huge investment of time and energy into my children for no reason other than a love for kids and a love of the game.  To say that my attitude has been adjusted and that I am so thankful I did not give full vent to my anger weeks earlier is an understatement.  I learned a lesson from coach that day and its one I won't soon forget!

Saturday, November 27, 2010

27November2010 Quickshot: Decoratin'

We put up our tree on Thanksgiving and the kids are completely smitten!

Friday, November 26, 2010

Monday, November 22, 2010

22November2010 Quickshot: Villain

J recently played the villain in a Greek tragedy.  
He did a great job and his costume was right on!

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

17November2010 Quickshot: Blood

Blood from sheep being slaughtered for Eid Al Adha. 

Monday, November 15, 2010

15November2010 Best Friend

A couple weeks ago I was asking the students in my English class random questions to illicit conversation practice.  Usually I ask stuff like,"What is your favorite family meal? Tell me about your last vacation. What's your greatest fear?"  One of my favorite questions is, "Who is your best friend and why?"  Responses normally reveal a little glimpse into both the respondents and their culture.
Khalel's answer did both.  He thought about it a few seconds and in broken English told me that having a best friend was "impossible." Back in the States this would not have surprised me but here, where family and community are priorities, I was surprised.  I pressed Khalel for an explanation and he said that whenever it was time for hanging out and playing his friends where there but when he needed them they "could not be found." 
Just yesterday I posed the same question about friendship to Yahya while administering a conversation test.  "You know," he said, " it is unfortunate that we find ourselves in a situation that it's not possible for a man to have best friends."  He went on to explain that with the busyness of life, an increasing deficit of time has caused people to lose touch with one another.  However, Yahya did go on to say that he currently had two wives and his second wife was probably his best friend. 
We can say with a large degree of certainty that there is within each of us a desire for deep, meaningful relationships.  Why is it then, that it so so difficult?  Maybe its our priorities?  Life is pretty busy.  Attaining position, making money, pursuing wants, chasing the latest whim or even helping worthy causes can consume immense amount of time and energy.
In Samuel's first book there's a story of a beautiful relationship.  Chapter 20 talks about two men, Jonathan and David, who exemplified friendship.  They were sacrificial and selflessness, sought the best for each other, loved one another is spite of pressure to do otherwise, and they were at the very least dependable. 
We hope that you have relationships in your life like this!  If you do count your blessings.  If you don't seek them out work at them.  Life's too short to go it alone.

Sunday, November 14, 2010

Thursday, November 11, 2010

11November2010 Quickshot: Chat

You don't walk by a friend.  You stop and converse with a friend. 

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

9November2010 Smells

There are very distinct smells here.  Some of our favorites:
  • Jasmine - There are huge jasmine bushes growing along roads and beside sidewalks throughout town.  Whenever you walk by one the smell captivates you.
  • Coffee  - The smell of beans being ground and grounds being cooked into thick Arabic coffee is very distinct. 
  • Falafel - Nothing says, "Good morning!" like driving by a stand where fresh falafel is frying.  If they're brewing tea in mint leaves, even better.
  • Argyle - Water-pipe cafes with their glowing charcoal and fruit-flavored smoke is really nice.
  • Perfume - Perfume souqs are located all about town.  You can walk in and pick out a ready-made perfume or cologne or have the shopkeeper create your own custom blend.
  • Water Fountains - Yeah it sounds weird but on the other side of town this is a beautiful water fountain in the middle of a traffic circle.  Whenever we ride past it you can smell water. Maybe this is a result of living in the desert but even from 100 yards away water has a very distinct aroma..
Smells have been very important in this neck of the woods for a long time.  Check out the phrases  "pleasing aroma" or "sweet savor" in our favorite Book.  

    Sunday, November 7, 2010

    7November2010 Quickshot: Nose Job

    Playing football with your brother and a buddy is fun.
    Getting tackled on concrete...not so much.

    Tuesday, November 2, 2010

    2November2010 Quickshot: Election

    An Iraqi friend's proof that she voted.  She wore it like a badge, unafraid of the consequences.

    Monday, November 1, 2010